I recently learnt about Tai-Chi, a Chinese martial arts which says dont use resistance or force against your opponent. I have tried to apply the same in psychology and found out a similar thing. The subconscious bounces back the efforts of conscious if you force things onto subconscious. Then how do we make any real progress without forcing ourselves. Do we have to let fate choose what we are? I observed that, to acheive something I had to force myself, though I sometimes give up. But without force I absolutely dont see how I can improve myself?
