firstly, i’m straight but was a complete and utter tomboy as a kid. so now i’m a (young) adult, i seem like a normal and cute (so i’ve been told on plenty occasions) girl. i do however, still have one problem to address and that’s my, or should i say lack of, feminine vibe.
i know that my body language is more masculine than feminine. i don’t scream at weird and wonderful insects for example, i don’t have any phobias. i am pretty much fearless you could say. i can’t say training in taekwondo and kickboxing in my adolescent years helped me in the aspect of learning to be feminine.
my friend (male) said to me that i look like an ordinary cute girl but once you see me move, it’s like seeing a bloke. ok, so that’s spelled out my problem but i have no idea how to start. i’ve been walking around my home with books on my head to try and straighten my walk but when i’m outside (i can’t use the books) and automatically tense my shoulders subconsciously and probably walk like a man….
i have been walking this past week, however with my shoulders loose, back straight, smaller strides and try not to swing my arms so much. my friends said it’s much better. my presence improves and it’s much more feminine.
so think of me with that problem and add a heavy satchell to the equation. (i need laptop or heavy books most times). i think i my walk becomes stilted once i have that bag. it’s a lot difficult to keep my poise with it banging on my pelvis/thigh and weighing me down one side (on the shoulder) so how do you carry out a feminine poise when you have books that heavy?
also, probably the way i pick up things, just general movement really is probably masculine. i may sound a tad bit paranoid here but i want to learn to change my body language habits because i know it isn’t an attractive trait. i can get so much further with my life if i could just naturally be feminine. any advice?
